Which is which?

Love with sex or sex with love? I guess this is an issue that has got the world puzzled recently. For your info,love with sex basically means that with sex,one hopes that love will blossom from there and as for the latter,it basically means that sex is a product of love that exists between 2 individuals.In the past,there was only one ideology--that sex took place only because a couple was in love and in the process,they wanted to get intimate with a possible plan for babies,except for prostitution that is. But the sad thing is that in modern society,this ideology has been perversed. Some individuals,mainly the females have ended up believing that by offering their bodies,they may be able to make their partners love them.Interviews with some of them that are featured in articles has allowed some light to be shed on the distorted believes of these women.I recalled reading about how one girl mentioned that she was pressured into having sex with her boyfriend because he had commented that "if she loved him,she would do it with him".Yet another mentioned that she decided to have sex with her boyfriend because she felt that by doing so,"he would love her more".Although i am not for the idea of having premarital sex,i am not a staunch opposer of it either. Afterall,society is freeing up and i am sure in the process,people's take on this issue is constantly changing.What i am deeply saddened is by the way these ladies actually treat their bodies. Although their partners may not respect them and their bodies,the least is for them to respect themselves a little. But i can't say that they are entirely at fault.I can understand how much they actually love their partners and all they are asking for is to be loved back as well. However,the thing is,i am sure that there is another way out to all these and if their boyfriends really love them,they would understand their position and accept that sex will only come if love exists.To me,this is the very basic of mutual trust and understanding. If it cannot even happen,i feel that the relationship shouldn't even be there in the first place at all.Ladies,is not worth it being with someone who cannot even respect you for a start. I am sure that there are many better guys out there=)